September 2018

September 2018

Staying Alive…Ah, Ah, Ah, Ah, Staying Alive, Staying Alive

Even though spring gets credited with new growth and beginnings, for many of us that time of the year is the fall. From academic classes to new clinical placements to planning (and having) state conferences, fall term is when a lot of new things happen. For me, it is a time when I try to set goals, develop plans to have success with those goals, and evaluate where I am and how I feel about the direction of things.  With all this goal setting, planning, and self-assessment, it’s important to have an idea or a system in place of where to go to when things go off the rails. Mike Tyson said it best when he said, “Everyone has a plan til they get punched in the mouth” and that is an accurate statement! That punch can come in many forms, when we least expect it, and at the worst possible time and, for most of us, it is not if the punch is coming, but when.  When life punches me square in the face and I stumble back to my corner to hopefully get ready for the next round (which comes sooner than we like), how do you get ready to go back out there?

I want to share with you some things that I have in my “ring corner” to get ready for the next round. First and foremost, my “corner” people are my family and I have to lean on them. My family includes people that are related to me and people that I chose to be my family, and they are invaluable for my psychological health. I have to have people who can tolerate me when I am having a pity party. I need and appreciate their support and I do the same when they are in the ring and I am their corner team. Second, I have to believe that it was ok to get knocked down (which is easier said than done) because it keeps me honest and grounded. If you take on lofty goals you will have set backs; it literally happens to EVERYBODY. For me, the trick is to really examine that goal to see if I need to work harder or was it the wrong goal. The truth is you will never really know the answer to that, but you have to be able to make peace with your decision however the end turns out. Finally, I have adopted the mindset of, and I try to surround myself with people who share the same philosophy of, “make it better for someone else.” Without a doubt, this can be the hardest thing to do when you have had a setback, but there is a reason why it matters and why it is important for you to do. And that reason is positive thoughts and positive energy directed towards someone or something else will lift you up.  If you can make a life habit of doing that, it will pay out more than you pay in and it will make you a happier person.  I hope this year brings you success and happiness, and that it brings you a step closer to your goals!